There are 5 key players in every divorce.
Originally published: May 2018 | Updated: December 2025 | By: Deborah Beylus
(1) You. Three factors – who you are, what you want out of the divorce, and how eager you are to save or end your marriage – will impact how you show up and influence the divorce outcome.
(2) Your spouse. The same three factors – Who s/he is, what s/he wants out of the divorce, and how eager s/he is to save or end the marriage – will influence the divorce outcome. There are things you can do to encourage your spouse to do the right thing and make the divorce less painful for you both.
(3) Your attorney. His or her personality, motivations, experience, and how well s/he can work with your spouse’s attorney. You hired this attorney and s/he should be representing your best interests.
(4) Your spouse’s attorney. You have NO control over this person at all and at times it may seem that s/he lives just to make you miserable.
(5) The Judge. Again, you have no control here. And, you probably want to limit the amount of control any Judge will have on your daily interactions and finances unless you feel you need protection.
Using #A Friendly Divorce and #Southfloridamediationservices can help you significantly reduce the impact (4) and (5) will have on your life. Call me at 561-789-0710 and ask me how.
If you’re ready to get started, call us now!
Deborah Beylus
Deborah Beylus is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ with over 30 years of financial industry experience. Based in Boca Raton, she leads South Florida Mediation Services, helping couples navigate divorce with clarity, fairness, and sound financial insight. A divorced mother of three herself, Deborah brings both professional expertise and personal understanding to the mediation process. Her firm has been named a Florida Trend Top Mediation Firm for three consecutive years, and she is a frequent speaker on mediation and divorce finances.
